One definition of insanity is; doing something the same old way you have always done it and expecting different results.

We all have dreams and inspiration to overcome the old patterns of life. One way of looking at the future and over coming the old patterns is acknowledging if we have failed at letting go of the old patterns in the past, make a note of what technique or method you used and ask yourself, "am I willing to try this same old technique again even though it did not work before?" Why continue using the same methods if they do not work?                       
Evaluate your state of mind when it comes to overcoming old patterns of perception. Do you get upset easily at someone's character, image or behavior?  Do you judge others easily or are you better at understanding the patterns that others are stuck in. Are you easily frightened or on edge?
In order to mature emotionally we must first learn to grow in patience and love. When challenges confront us we are offered an opportunity if we condition our minds and emotions to be more creative in our approach of viewing the world. We can be the observer instead of the reactor. Observe the world around you in a kind of detached mode before you react to it. Pretend you are behind an invisible wall that only you are aware of and you get to observe things objectively before you have to react to it.

Consider the old reaction you normally would have and then creatively imagine what a brand new way of reacting or even non-reaction would look like. This will help you to break up old mental and emotional patterns. In time, you will notice with practice how much better people react to you because you are beginning to send out a more harmonious energy that is reflected back to you.  You can win at any life game, if you are willing to change your perceptions. Also, recognize how special and unique you are and appreciate the growth you have already attained emotionally and spiritually. Loving and appreciating yourself is the main ingredient to any type of success because you cannot attempt to engage life coming from a point of emptiness. So, fill up your well first with the idea that you deserve the best life has to offer. You can prime the well by asking the universe to surprise you with the answer and not trying to figure it out for yourself. You will only get in the way of what may be much bigger and grander than you could have ever imagined.